Where are we failing in giving strong family background to our girls?... #TunishaShradhha_andmanymore

In the last few days, so many cases are being discussed which are related to Love Jihad, or Suicide, or something that has gone wrong with a girl. Shradhha Walker and Tunisha Sharma are most discussed, these cases are raising huge questions in our society. Not just to the other side of the coin, why and how some people get involved in Love Jihad or Kill or cut into pieces the person whom they loved. But to those who are on the victim’s side as well. Where are we lacking? Where are we not able to provide a strong family background, bonding, and backing to our girls, that they are getting distracted, detached, and eventually die?

Shradhha Walker lived in a dysfunctional family, where her father was not staying with the family. She was detached from her family because of loose family bonding and support. Result? Running away from her family, leaving her house, and staying in a live-in with a Muslim guy who eventually killed and cut her into pieces because she wanted to get married and he didn't. Shows that if she had a strongly bonded family chances were she would never have left her house.

Let’s talk about the actress Tunisha Sharma, who committed suicide on the sets of “Alibaba Dastan - E - Kabul” because of her alleged relationship and breakup with her boyfriend and Co-actor Sheezan Khan. Her mother Vaneeta Sharma in a press conference shared that she was being influenced by Sheezan’s family. They used to treat her with love and slowly convert her to Islam. Where she started talking in Urdu and wearing Hijab. Where yesterday Sheezan’s family hosted a press conference and put the allegation on Tunisha’s mother that she neglected Tunisha’s mental health, she wanted Tunisha to work endlessly and make money, and she was the one who handled her money, also she had bad relationships with her daughter, and Sheezan’s family gave her all the love. Also, Sheezan’s sisters Falaq and Shafaq Naaz said that Tunisha had a loveless life, where she missed her family dearly and Sheezan’s family gave her that love and kept her happy in the last 6 months.

 

 

 

Now people are raising questions, was that a slow poisoning from Sheezan’s family? Were they manipulating her in the name of love, and because 20 years old Tunisha was extremely sensitive she couldn’t handle the breakup as she felt she will again have to live a loveless life if Sheezan and his family won’t be there in her life anymore. Was that the reason for her taking this extreme step? These questions are unanswered, but the problem is out and clear.

Tunisha’s father passed away at a very young age. She missed her father and a perfect family picture dearly and chances are high that she got that missing part in Sheezan’s family once because of Religion and Age Sheezan denied the relationship (As per what he told the police.) Tunisha couldn’t handle it. If this is the case who is the culprit? Who is at the fault?

 

 

 

People can really take advantage of your family issues and not having a strong family bond can create huge issues in the future, it is high time we should realize it. Increasing divorce rates, due to compatibility issues, and other expectations from life can create humongous harsh effects on coming generations. These cases are just a trailer of what can happen if the girls/boys do not get strong family backing at home.

Have we all thought from this angle? What steps can be taken to improve this situation?

1. Open Communication: Kids of the house should have space to talk to their parents on all sorts of issues from relationships to sex advice, from casual friendships to serious issues in life. Their parents should be the first ones they must go to. That sort of open communication we need in our Indian households is sometimes missing.

2. More family time together: Increasing nuclear families and kids living in and out of their rooms can also lead to no communication and miscommunication which can lead to major issues in the future. More family time together is something that is much needed. Small rules like having one meal together, Technology and social media free 1 hour together can really help.

3. Trust: Parents and kids should have ultimate trust in each other. Kids should realize that in this entire universe no one can care for them more than their parents. And parents should have trust in their kids that they won’t do anything wrong if parents will have good and clear communication with them.

4. Efforts to reduce the generation gap from both sides: Usually we see parents are unable to digest the changing times and newer concepts they have lived their life in a certain way and they are unable to accept the change, on the other hand, kids also do feel that parents know nothing of their age and they won’t understand. Here both sides need to take one step ahead and try to reduce this generation gap. Parents need to be more open when it comes to understanding the new generation and Kids also need to understand where are their parents coming from. Only then this ga will be reduced.

When we girls have the best and strongest support from our parents, trust me you don’t need anyone. And to keep the next generation safe from such crimes and issues we need to provide a strong family bond to the coming generations. What do you think? Let us know in the comments below.